How to Talk to Your Partner about Unassisted Childbirth
It’s quite possible that you’re entertaining the idea of an unassisted childbirth, but you’re not sure how to talk to your partner about it. First of all, you need to realize that your partner is concerned about your well-being and the well-being of your child. Therefore, it’s important to address his concerns in a way that allows him to appreciate your point.
Unassisted Childbirth Is Not Dangerous
While not every woman is cut out to give birth unassisted, having an unassisted birth is neither a stupid nor a dangerous thing to do. In fact, giving birth naturally actually reduces the likelihood that there will be problems. In a hospital setting, the process of childbirth is significantly interfered with. This often leads to a cascade of interventions. In order to bring your partner around, he needs to educate himself about the dangers of these interventions and while it’s best to leave well enough alone.
If childbirth were so risky, then humankind would no longer be around. After all, every other mammal gives birth without having a doctor in attendance. Believe it or not, your body is meant to give birth without help. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.
Address Specific Fears
Even if you try to get the point across that giving birth is not dangerous, your partner may still dislike the idea of an unassisted birth. After all, he doesn’t see the harm in going to the hospital, just in case. You probably already know that that’s not the right answer. However, in order to convince your partner and get him on board, you’re going to need to address his specific fears.
What exactly is he worried about? Hemorrhage? A breech baby? It’s easier to deal with specific fears than with a general unease. You can both find solutions together in order to put his mind at ease. For example, if you’re worried that the baby isn’t breathing at birth (as I did when I was pregnant), you should find out what you would do in that situation. If it helps, you can take a CPR course that teaches you how to help infants.
Don’t Let Fear Take Over
It’s quite natural to be nervous. However, you shouldn’t let your fears take over. The bottom line is that nobody is forcing you to give birth unassisted. If something is wrong, your intuition will let you know. And while you may not want to go to the hospital to give birth, your intuition may lead you to do so. Most of all, you should trust yourself. You know what’s best for your baby.